One of the most entertaining subcultures on the Internet is a Reddit category called Am I The Asshole? People will post all kinds of shocking behavior and then leave it the comment thread to determine who was in the right and who is definitely the asshole. So, when I saw that a woman was charging an entrance fee to her own gender reveal party, I popped some popcorn and saddled up for the explosive comments.
On July 11th, an anonymous woman posted to Reddit’s AITA that her close friend was about to have a baby shower. Since the woman lives paycheck-to-paycheck, she had to request time off from work and carefully budget in order to buy a nice gift for her friend’s new baby. The problem arose when the friend decided that she was having two parties; a gender reveal first and a future baby shower later. If that wasn’t confusing enough, the woman also decided to charge an entrance fee to her gender reveal.
The Redditer wrote, “Anyways, about a week before the baby shower I get a text from her saying this party would actually be a gender reveal party and they were having a separate baby shower 3 weeks later that she wanted me to come to as well.”
At this point, the author of the post says she was annoyed but then…
“Two days before the now ‘gender reveal’ party she texts me in a group message of people and says there’s an entry fee of $20 to the party! I was seriously blown away. I understand it takes planning and money to put together a party but it was her choice to have one. I texted her privately outside the group message and told her I didn’t have $20 extra to bring to the party since I already got her a gift and had other bills to pay.”
Ok, let’s back up a second. This woman changed the game plan two weeks before the party and shockingly added a cover charge but did so in an awkward group chat? If you’re getting the sense that this woman is boldly entitled then check out how she responded to her friend letting her know, privately, that this was not going to work for her.
The anonymous woman shared on Reddit, “She replied saying ‘Sorry girl, I can’t make just an exception for you. You promised you would be there!’ I didn’t reply and didn’t show up. She texted me a few days later informing me I was disinvited to the future baby shower and how she was appalled I couldn’t even send a message to let her know I wasn’t coming after I said I would be there.”
After 879 comments it was overwhelmingly decided that the anonymous woman is definitely not the asshole here.