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How Conscious Discipline Can Help You Be a Better Mom

As moms, we all want to create a safe and nurturing environment for our children, but traditional discipline methods often fall short. Enter Conscious Discipline, a revolutionary approach to child-rearing that emphasizes empathy, self-regulation, and connection.

What is Conscious Discipline?

Conscious Discipline is a research-backed program developed by Dr. Becky Bailey, an expert in developmental psychology and childhood education. It is currently used in 25 languages across 101 countries worldwide.

The program’s basis is that discipline should focus on teaching children rather than punishing them. To that end, Conscious Discipline helps children learn to regulate their emotions, develop empathy and problem-solving skills, and build positive relationships with others.

The program relies on seven skills: composure, empathy, positive intent, assertiveness, choices, consequences, and problem-solving. These skills work together to create a safe and supportive environment where children can learn and grow.

How does the program work?

Brain science and social-emotional learning form the foundation of Conscious Discipline. Through their parents, children learn to recognize and manage their emotions, communicate effectively, and develop positive relationships with others. 

The program uses a variety of strategies:

  • Firstly, it advocates creating a safe and supportive environment. Conscious Discipline emphasizes the importance of a physically and emotionally safe environment for children. This includes providing clear boundaries, routines, and expectations.
  • Secondly, the program encourages connection. One of the core tenets is building positive relationships with children. It helps adults connect with children through empathy, active listening, and problem-solving.
  • Thirdly, it teaches self-regulation. Conscious Discipline teaches children to recognize and manage their emotions through mindfulness techniques, deep breathing, and other calming strategies.
  • Finally, it fosters problem-solving skills: The program helps children develop problem-solving skills by encouraging them to take responsibility for their actions, make choices, and work collaboratively with others.

The program gives parents the tools they need to help their children handle the tough stuff. By learning scripts and new ways of interacting with their kids, moms can defuse emotionally charged situations, move past power struggles, and reduce acting out.

Check out how Dr. Becky Bailey recommends parents handle a temper tantrum:

Why is this approach effective?

Conscious Discipline is effective because it offers a proactive approach to discipline that focuses on teaching children rather than punishing them. It helps children develop essential social-emotional skills that facilitate success in school and in life.

Research has shown that children who participate in Conscious Discipline programs have better social-emotional skills, improved behavior, and higher academic achievement.

This game-changing approach to parenting is proactive and effective. By creating a safe and supportive environment, building positive relationships, and teaching self-regulation and problem-solving skills, parents can help children thrive.

How to learn more about Conscious Discipline

To learn more about Conscious Discipline and access free resources, visit

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