Bethenny Frankel Is Trying To Find Her Identity Again

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Former reality star and current talk show host Bethenny Frankel doesn't think it's possible to have it all.  The celebrity mom, who is in the middle of a divorce from Jason Hoppy, sat down with Health magazine's new issue to chat about Twitter followers, dieting and to share what she's looking for in a man. 

On having it all: “I don’t think you can have it all at once. It’s hard to have a career and a personal life and a love life and a sex life. If it happens, I’ll let you know!”

On her Twitter followers…“My Twitter audience can be great. They can be harsh. Ellen says to never buy into any of it. Don’t buy into the haters. Don’t but into the lovers. But I get a lot of inspiration from people on social media. I think you learn a lot about people; you learn what they like. It’s a good place to connect.”

On the most important qualities in a partner:  "In a romantic partner? Hmm. Acceptance. Confidence. Sense of humor. Ability to take charge. I’m always so in charge, I’d like someone else to take charge. And it’s not that easy. I’m not that easy a person to take charge of. I don’t want anyone to take charge of my business. I want someone to take charge of my personal life.”

On feeling pressure to have the perfect body: “I’m not overly concerned. I like that I have a nice figure, but I don’t any feel pressure about it. It’s not the thing that people identify me with. I mean, they do, but it’s not who I think I am. I’m flawed. I’ve created a success based on being flawed.”

On healthy eating and dieting: "I grew up eating quality food but in a very obsessive household about being thin and eating disorders…When I was in my 30s, I just unlocked the safe. I figured out how dieting doesn’t work. I’d been on every diet and it took me all those years to realize: Diets are hopeless. They are hope, and then they break your spirit.”

On what she does that’s just for her: "Recently I’m trying to find my identity again. I’m figuring out who I am in this new life. So I’ll take my dog and go for walks along the river. I’ll walk and do something mindless. It’s good.”

The full interview is available in Health magazine's December issue.

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